Re: Invasive tactics (was Re: The important)

"Evelyn Ruut" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote in message
news:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>
> "Orlando" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote in message
> news:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> > Evelyn Ruut wrote:
> > > Thanks Ananda,
> > >
> > > I knew it was Ch'an Fu anyway.
> > > Imagine getting to age 61 and still playing teenage games?
> > > He is deserving more of our pity than hatred.   One sick puppy.
> > Hi Evelyn!
> >
> > Why does he? Dont mean to be a wiseguy now, but i cant see how spilling
> > poison into our enemys can help? In my experience, its just another
> > addition to the ongoing war everyone fights - so why not bring it on the
> > path? -
> > Just reading about Atisha - he went to tibet and was told that there are
> > only friendly people  - so he took his servant with him who was so nasty
> > he was someone very valuable to him coz he could teach him where he
> > stands, what weaknesses he has etc. - the joke was: there were plenty of
> > bad people in tibet too :)
> >
> > regards,
> > orlando
>
>
> Why?  That is a great question, Orlando.
>
> The buddha said:
>
> "In this world
>
> Hate never yet dispelled hate.
>
> Only love dispels hate.
>
> This is the law,
>
> Ancient and inexhaustible."
>
>
>
> (Dhammapada)
>
>
>
>
>
> THAT is why he is more worthy of our compassion than our hatred.
>
>  Hatred just begets more of the same.   Like putting out a fire with
> gasoline.....
>
>
>
> I might also add;
>
>
>
> When someone is SO negative and angry as Fu is, the better way is to just
go
> silent.  Like with a little child, giving him a "timeout"  So I back off
and
> do not engage in conversation with him anymore.   He has my compassion and
I
> do indeed feel sorry for anyone that angry and deluded, but I can't help
> him, and he can only drag us down if we stoop to his level.
>
>
> --
> Evelyn
>
> (To reply to me personally, remove sox)
>

He can't drag you anywhere unless you allow him to do it. What is really at
issue here ? Is it really the way Fooey posts, or is it the reactions that
he gets ? These reactions are all voluntary. Fooey is not over at your house
with a gun at your head forcing you to respond to his posts. You have taken
what he has done personally and the only one who will derive grief and allow
voluntary self-sabotage is you by taking things personally. Even if someone
intends something towards you personally, you are never forced to accept it
as such. It is not necessarily Fooey's actions that are suspect here but the
motivational reasons behind your and other's complete and utter willingness
to be affected by what he does. What type of juice are you getting out of
this volleying back and forth of what others do to you ?