Re: Reopening a conversation that has probably been beaten to death over the years...

On Tue, 25 Nov 2003 23:26:50 -0800, "clemens"
<[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:

>...But for both subs and Dommes - how and where have you found your
>playmates/subs/owners etc?
>
>clemens
>
>

In my teens, I would just "seduce" boyfriends into it.  Back then, it
was light play anyway....and most were more than happy to go along
with it.

In my 20s, I started going more to gothic/industrial dance clubs, and
picking out guys I thought would be into it, then flirting with them,
and dropping clues, see if they nibbled.

I started dabbling on the net, and hooked up with a few partners that
way, also.

In the business world, I was more cautious, but if it was not someone
I directly worked with I would still send out some femdom vibes and
see if he caught on, and if he did, I'd escalate it, until I realized
he was interested and then I would take it from there,

I have always been very fond of seduction and "manufactured"
entrapment. I call it manufactured, because it's all in my head -- I
know he is consenting, but I still make myself believe it's a bit of a
dupe.  

I used to love to be the aggressive female. I was not overbearing, but
subtle, direct, and confident.  If men reacted to that, I knew there
was a chance.

Long term partners were usually boyfriends that learned to understand
that this was a part of me, and grew to accept it and be a part of it.
I dated a few subs for the longterm, but had more success with
vanillas.

I think it is easier for femdoms to find submissive partners.  It is
also easier for femdoms to find vanillas willing to "convert".  But in
both cases, it is quantity, not quality.   Seriously.  And there is a
lot of "weeding out" that must go on.

Akasha


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