Re: My Wife - Seven Year Itch?

> Well, she has refused counseling in the past and I am sure she will now.
> 
> We aren't having kids to fix problems but you have a point..we've always
> "covered up" our problems, mainly because she refuses to face or admit them.
> She has never communicated well with me.
> 
> Well, I could most certainly give her more time but I honestly don't think
> how much longer I can put up with her not wanting to hug or kiss or just a
> wife. Or how many 3:00 AM nights I can take. I do want her to have fun and
> maybe rediscover herself, but my philosophy is that if she wants to continue
> to live under the same roof, then she needs to be a wife.
> 
> 
Hi Again Brian, 

I see some warnings here.  Counseling?  My STBX also refused
counseling. Covering Up problems?  Also a very familiar "non-coping"
mechanism with my STBX.  His though process went something like this -
"if I ignore the problem long enough it will go away".  Being more
that a roomate?  Also been there.  My STBX has slept on the couch for
years.

I would love to be able to give you some encouraging advice here, but
these problems are screaming "headed for divorce" to me.

The only thing I think you can do is to go to your wife, tell her
you're concerned about the way your marriage has been lately, and let
her know that without some improvements in the relationship that you
feel the next step will be separation and/or divorce.

Of course, before you do this, be absolutely certain that you want to
go ahead with either the separation or divorce because, as sad as it
sounds, I believe that is where you going to be headed.

Sorry I can't give you more hopeful advice.  You're in my prayers,
Brian.

Tina