Re: My Wife - Seven Year Itch?

"DrLith" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote in message
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> "Brian" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote in message
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> > Well, we have no kids and sex is the furthest from my mind..I'd take a
> > handshake at this point..I am currently her roommate.
> >
> > Though we've not gotten along WELL for years, I wonder if 2 weeks is
> enough
> > time to give her through this "spell" she is going through. I honestly
> can't
> > take it anymore but I also don't want to throw it all away.
>
> You've "not gotten along well for years"? Did you guys try to do anything
> about that?
>
> <Kathy once again shakes her head in amazement that someone could be
> cruising along in a mediocre relationship for years and then get surprised
> when their partner finally gives up on it>
>
> I went back and re-read your first post, by the way. The first paragraph
> tells it all:
>
> My faults: I am a lazy, unmotivated, forgetful, and scatterbrained.
> Her faults: she gets irritated with my laziness, lack of motivation, etc.
> etc.
> It is easier for me to learn to accept her lack of patience than to try to
> work on myself. I have accepted her flaws, why can't she accept mine?
>
> I have been so lazy, unmotivated, etc., during our marriage that it makes
> her scream, but I didn't care enough to stop it. Now she's being cold and
it
> makes me cry. Why doesn't she stop it?
>
> Now, others could be right and she's found a better model. But, there's
some
> chance that it's her new job that has given her the confidence to let go
of
> a lousy marriage. Either way, she is very close to the brink--once the
heart
> goes cold, it is a long, rough road to rekindle it.
>
> How do you respond when she tells you she's not sure if she loves you?

How do I respond? (swallowing my pride)...I cry like a baby.