Re: Coming out of the Crossdresser's closet

On Tue, 02 Dec 2003 15:38:07 GMT, "Gene Douglas" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:

>Below, you are speaking of society in general.  You may also be speaking of
>some "shrinks," but you also misunderstand many of the "shrinks," because
>they do not fit neatly into your ideology.

No sir... I do not misunderstand the shrinks based on any particular ideology.
I simply take a look at the carnage they've caused in the transcommunity and
write them off as dangerous.

The problem is simple:  Your definition of "normal" does not include
transgender identity.  It is inconceivable to you (and most other shrinks)
that transgender is my (and my peers) normal state of identity, you think of
us as cisgendered people who've gone astray and you endeavor to return us to
the cisgendered fold... and often with truly disastrous results.

I am not cisgendered.  I have never been cisgendered.  To be cisgendered would
be *abnormal* for me.

I have however been powerfully oppressed because I am transgendered.
Eliminating that oppression was the answer (for me and for several dozen
others) to a lifetime of shame, fear, guilt and stress.  When we *accept*
transgender as our normal states, the difficulties in our lives clear up
rather nicely.  When we attempt to deny being transgendered we start sprouting
problems on top of problems... things like alcoholism, drug abuse, stress
related disorders, paranoia, you name it.  Get back to self-acceptance and the
other issues become far more easily manageable.

That you appear to think being transgendered is the problem, not the solution,
is no surprise to me.  I've been watchdogging this situation for over a decade
and far and away the majority of the people I've worked with have found little
or no satisfaction in their involvements with therapy.  These days, a smart
transie avoids the shrinks simply because the degree of therapeutic
misunderstanding is becoming very obvious to us.

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Laura