Re: A journey towards self acceptance (Was: Coming out of the Crossdresser'scloset)

Hi ya FD

I agree with most of what you say, or accept that it is right for you.

However there is one bit...


"fdsa" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote in message
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>My problem is that I know that I will not get near 100% acceptance
>crossdressing in public.  I also know that it is never going to happen.
>    This realisation is the only thing that has ever caused me much
>distress.  I guess it was mostly because I had gotten to a point where I
>understood myself, and what I wanted to be, yet suddenly realised that I
>couldn't have it all.  It's like being shown something wonderful, and
>being told that you can't have it.  Or put another way, shattering a
>dream.  Yes, I could live an out life, but I would lose some of my place
>in society; things that are equally part of my identity.

This bit you do not KNOW, you can only speculate. Originally I was very
fearful, but my dream was that I could go anywhere as either Rikki or Rich,
and be accepted as ME. It did come true, and apart from 1 hiccup (an
unsubstantiated police raid, which proved my innocence) I lost no friends,
or standing in society. My neighbours were supportive of ME and condemned
the people who caused the problem. In fact they moved, and I'm still here.

Carl Rogers had a good quote

Characteristically, fully functioning persons are not trapped in
conventional or conformist rôles, and yet at the same time they relate to
society in a way that permits them to be fully involved than ostracized
because of their apparent eccentricity or anarchic radicalism.

Rikki / Rich