particles and the transitivity of verbs

i was wondering if we could establish a rule for the use of particles
describing the direct object (what) or the indirect object (who),
according to the verb being transitive or intransitive.

let me try to explain myself with examples. 
some of these sentences are surely wrong but i had to put them to get
the full idea on if was there a difference in particle usage depending
on the verb being transitive or not.


a) (what) and a transitive verb:

 i choose this book - watashi wa kono hon wo erabu 

 i choose this book - watashi wa kono hon ga erabu 

 i choose this book - watashi ga kono hon wo erabu 
 
 i choose this book - watashi ga kono hon ga erabu 


b) (who) and a transitive verb:

 i include john - watashi wa john wo fukumeru

 i include john - watashi wa john ga fukumeru
(the sentence above gives me the idea that it's john who is including
me, not the other way around)

 i include john - watashi ga john wo fukumeru

 i include john - watashi ga john ga fukumeru


c) (what) and an intransitive verb:

 i need a drink - watashi wa nomimono wo iru 

 i need a drink - watashi wa nomimono ga iru 

 i need a drink - watashi ga nomimono wo iru 

 i need a drink - watashi ga nomimono ga iru 


d) (who) and an intransitive verb:

 i apologize to john - watashi wa/ga john ni ayamaru

 i met with john - watashi wa/ga john to aimashita


can anyone help me? and sorry for all the watashis

mario dias