Re: Dirty Tricks that Mother didn't teach me -

"Gary" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote in message
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> whhedr,
>
> You should never quit playing just because others don't like to be
> beaten.  I lose more than I win depending on the level of players.
> However, I always think of tennis like old west gun-slingers...there's
> always someone out there faster, younger, etc..  Strange as it may
> seem, I can have a very good time even if I lose as long as I know in
> my heart that I played the very best I could for that given time.
> Plus, You are right about some people being too sensitive.  With me
> the perspective I have when I get on the courts is "thank the Lord I
> can be here playing tonight".  My Mother was paralyzed with a stroke
> three years back...and, I spend a good portion of my day seeing to all
> of her needs, (i.e., that means everything).  So, winning is less
> important than just getting to play.  And, my Wife and children will
> accompany me to the courts on league night because they like to see me
> play.  Maybe, its because we always have family time after league is
> over and play a few sets among ourselves.  However, I think it is
> important that my children see that when I lose I am respectful to my
> opponent...and, that I can accept defeat along with victory.  For me
> it's more important to impress my children with the fact that even
> though I may get beat that I gave it everything I have.
> I laughed at a thread in this ng where some parent was worried about
> his daughter who was having difficulties with her lessons.  I teach my
> children to play tennis for the love of the game...if they become very
> good players...that's great but not required.  I realized along time
> ago that I am not re-living my life vicariously through them...nor, do
> I expect them to be any less respectful of me when that day comes
> where they will beat me with ease.
>
> Your Friend,
> Gary


Well said.  Looks like you have a healthy perspective on things... ; )