Re: Rant

Tee wrote:

> "Gwen Watson" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote in message
> news:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> >
> > That too! It is rude and wrong but it is also true they have built
> > up a tolerance for their own.
>
> I've left friends/family's homes before because their children drove me nuts
> while the parents were honestly oblivious.  They just tune them out whether
> purposely or subconsciously.

It is a built in defense I think. Or something along those lines. People do
tend to learn to tune out certain noises they become adapted to. Like
the guy the runs the "jackhammer" all day long for a living. That would
drive me completely nuts and yet this person has learned to ignore this
gosh awful noise. I think it is somewhat similar. When one is around
their own kids all the time they have adapted to the noise their kids
make, but this does not go the same for a neighbors kid that may
come over to play. Which typically or often enough will drive
these same parents up the wall. It is different tone, a difference
squeal, a differenct laughter etc.


> If its someone I know well, I'll say something
> to the kid like "hey, tone it down a little."  Sometimes that doesn't go
> over well with the parents and sometimes it brings the behavior to their
> attention and they step in and take over.

I have done the same as well.



> I have a low tolerance for noise
> unless its good music that *I* choose to listen to loudly.  Otherwise I get
> really annoyed, really quickly.  I've moved tables in restaurants as a
> customer,

I have as well. Actually most resturants do feel obiligated to appease
their customers. And I have never been turned down in a resturant
if I wanted to be moved. Then again it doesn't always work as another
set of children could come running in any moment and sit and the
new table I have moved to. But it is always worth the try and hassle
for me.

> asked people to move as a waitress because their child was acting
> up, and I've actually asked people to quiet their kid down.

I have as well. But mostly a get rather loud myself so the parents
can hear how displeased I am with their kids behavior.

> Depends on my
> mood.  In most cases though, the parents are normally not aware of just how
> annoying their child's behavior is to others.

Yep that is my take on it. I really think the above is very true. Most
parents aren't aware of how annoying their child's behavior is. Afterall
they see them as perfect.

>  I've noticed the same can be
> said of many dog owners.  People whose dogs bark alot outside.  They hear
> the barking but its normal to them so its "just something he does <grin>"
> while to other neighbors its downright annoying.
>
> --
> Tara

Yeah I have been guilty of this in my own home with guests at times. It doesn't
happen often but at times the dogs get a bit rambunctious and go off. It doesn't
occur
with my neighbors though.

Gwen