Re: Booking Ahead Undermines The Dance Community

In article <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>, [EMAIL PROTECTED] (MeCorva) writes:
>> Again, there's no law against women deciding to dance together when
>> there's a surplus of men -- it's just inconsiderate.
>
>Imagine for a second that you replaced every instance of "woman" with
>"Blonde" and every instance of "man" with "brunette".    In that case,
>you'd be complaining that you can't find enough people to dance with
>since you only dance with Blondes.  You, as a brunette, can't be
>expected to dance with brunettes.      What BURNS you up though, is
>that some blondes dances don't consider your feelings when they dance
>with other blondes.    How could they dance with blondes -- dang it,
>YOU want to dance with blondes!   (You don't seem to have given much
>thought that YOU dancing with women is inconsiderate to those women
>who want to dance with women)
>
>Perhaps you'll see why some people considered your comments worthy of
>ridicule, and name calling ( although, I think that calling you a
>homophobe is insulting to you, and serves to undermine the word's
>impact ).    I'm not denying that, as a society, men tend to be less
>comfortable dancing with other men than women dancing with women --
>but then again, according to our society "Real Men Don't Dance".      
>I don't know you, and therefore don't care personally if you keep your
>"Men don't Dance with Men" taboo -- but as a dancer, I'll advocate
>removing the "MDDWM" taboo before trying to enforce a "don't book
>ahead" rule. 

APR says he's tried dancing with other men and neither particularly enjoyed 
it nor found that it increased his opportunities to dance with the people 
he wanted to dance with.  That doesn't sound like he's submitted to an  
unreasoning taboo on his part.

If he is talking about the Cambridge dance, as another poster reported, then
what he wishes is not so much that women wouldn't dance together as that the
high school kids didn't act as a clique and would dance with other people than
each other.

(While we're substituting stuff for "woman" and "man", we might try
substituting "youngster" and "adult" and see if it looks any different.  To me,
it does look different; he might have a more legitimate-sounding  complaint 
about the high school kids not acting communitarian than he does about women
dancing together when they want to.)

-- Alan
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