Re: I've got a topic for discussion...

In article <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>,
<[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:

> I have a question for you all, and I would like to get some honest answers.
> Call
> it curiousity.
> 
> Would you consider answering personals ads and corresponding with women from
> them cheating? 

Wow.  Now that's a doosey of a topic and one that hits home.

In my book...yes.  Whether it's through the internet or in a bar, when
a person is activily seeking the companionship of someone outside their
marriage that person is "cheating on their spouse" or as I like to say
"not being TRUE to the spouse".  By law though the relationship would
have to be consumated in a sexual nature beforie it would be considered
adultery.

I draw distinction between "cheating" and "adultery".  I think the law
does as well.  See for me once a person decides to go outside the
mariage for companionship they have in essence "cheated".  Acting on it
is where one crosses into adultery.  Cheating starts with the thought.

I know I would have serious problems if I found out my wife was
activily answering personal ads for male companionship...even if it was
never intended to be anything but "online" and in a "non-sexual"
context.  I would feel "cheated on"....not because of the fact she's
been corresponding with another man but because she was actively
seeking it.

> Whether it is or not, would you consider it grounds for a
> break-up?
> 
My wife certainly would.  For me, it would depend on the specifics of
the interaction whether it would be enough for me to end the marriage. 


To be completely honest, my relationships with certain female members
of this newsgroup is still an "issue" between me and my wife.  Have I
cheated?  Certainly not in my mind.   

My wife asks about Shaye and Rox specifically, and what I get through
my correspondence with them.  Not an unfair question in and of itself. 
My reply is that I get the same thing from them as I do from Brent,
Britt, Bryant, Greg, Synthuser, Johan, Chris Tidwell, and ever yother
male person I've had personal contact with through the newgroups or
e-mail:  Friendship, commraderie and a common love for a particular
type of music.  

She doesn't get the whole "newgroup/internet thing" to begin with and
would be insecure about me cultivating relationships with women period. 
That's her nature.  I understand it and we deal with it.


> I'm sure we could find a way to tie this in to Queensrÿche if we tried, but
> I'll
> leave that up to y'all.

Well I tied it into my personal experience in the Queensryche
newsgroup.  I think that qualifies it as On Topic. ;-)

> 
> Looking forward to hearing your answers, which will probably be more exciting
> and less one-sided than the Falcons-Giants game will be.

Well the game was definitely one-sided....but somehow I think you were
way more excited about the game. ;-)

Later
Phil