Re: Kids should work...

On 3 Dec 2003 16:41:38 GMT, Ignoramus11065
<[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:

>> Relationship. Are you your child's coach and supporter? Are you
>> committed to those roles sufficiently to take the time and trouble to
>> learn what she is ready for developmentally and educationally at any
>> given point in her progress?
>
>I do not think that taking away a cup which he was using to spill
>water everywhere, is going to ruin our relationship. He wants to spill
>water, fine, do it in the sink. You want to spill it on the floor, you
>get your cup taken away. Is this going to ruin our relationship? I do
>not think so.

So rather than removing the cup, bring the child to the sink or
bathtub so he can spill water without making a mess for you to
clean up and simply help him clean up the mess he did make
when he spilled because he was experimenting with the cup and
the water.

In the aggregate, punishment will ruin the relationship.  No *one*
incident does it alone, but the attitude it holds - the absolute
exercise of power of the child's life and the insistence upon
blind obedience to your whims most certainly will.


--
Dorothy

There is no sound, no cry in all the world
that can be heard unless someone listens ..

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