Re: Bad Faith Marriage

typo error...that was supposed to be October 18th 2002 *blinks* my bad..lol!

elaine wrote:

> Ooh...not that this would matter to you..cause you see my bf and I's
> relationship as a joke already, and so don't understand what's involved in a
> long distance "online" telephone YEAR LONG committed relationship to one
> another...on October 18th, 2003... my bf and I did what only people on line can
> do to make a commitment to oneanother, we got "cyber married" or "digi married"
> as we call it....we went into a wiccan chat room....(ooooh evil people...yessss
> witchcraft blah blah...that's one of our common interests...shall I name them
> all of them off for you, so you can determine if indeed our relationship is
> genuine, continuing, and bona fide?)  We went into a wiccan chat room and in
> front of all the other "chatters" whom we knew of in the room...a wiccan priest
> and a  priestess married us...we did this, just to prove to eachother, our
> commitment to one another while maintaining our relationship ONLINE, it's been
> one year later...hum..de dum...we've met now....hum de dum...we are still
> together...hum de dum...next level...LEGALLY MARRY IN REAL LIFE! Oh
> also...before you go and shoot holes in the Wicca Theology, or religion or
> following what ever someone wants to call it...it's LEGAL in Ontario Canada to
> be married, by a LEGAL and RECOGNIZED Wiccan Priest and/or Priestess....Look it
> up, it's a real and legally recognized wedding ceremony...That's what we
> initially want to do, in a REAL WEDDING CERMONY...it's called a "Handfasting"
> they did it in the movie "Bravehart" if your wondering what it's like...it is
> the same as exchanging rings...if not more so...because under Wicca Law...the
> bond with a handfasting is 3 fold if broken...meaning, if one of the partners
> betrays the other, they will get back, bad luck so to speak, 3 fold...that's
> more than once..think about it. here's a link to help you out and understand
> it.....http://www.medievalscotland.org/history/handfasting.shtml
>
> "http://www.iamnotamerican.com"; wrote:
>
> > in a recent article, elaine ([EMAIL PROTECTED]) said:
> >
> > > Also, with that, does Canadian Immigration take into consideration how
> > > we got married, ie...a huge ceremony, family member's present etc...or
> > > do they really care?  We can only afford to have a civil ceremony with a
> > > couple of friends present as witnesses, with no reception, but we do
> > > have plans to have a "bigger" ceremony with family members and a
> > > reception, when we have more money saved to have one.
> >
> >     Disclaimer:  It's politically correct these days to tell the truth, but
> > I never was politically correct...so I say it as I see it.  Here 'goes....
> >
> >     When you're married, your married, but as any relationship expert (and
> > psychologist) would ask...why the rush.  You've spent a total of 35 days
> > with each other (5 weeks @ 7 days/wk), and now you want to get married?
> > While I'm sure you'll say you're totally in love and that you're
> > 'different', marrying someone you've known for 35 days is statistically
> > bound to come crashing and burning.  And you will be responsible for this
> > person for a number of years, because you sponsored them.
> >
> >     You're looking at this through glasses that are VERY rose-coloured right
> > now, but you must sit back and look at it realistically.  You refer to a
> > marriage in BAD FAITH yourself.  If you know it, then why do it?  If you're
> > truly in love, then why not actually develop the relationship, rather jump
> > into something you will most likely regret later?
> >
> >     You will be required to establish your relationship and 35 days of
> > 'together' time is going to raise a number of major red flags, and your own
> > mentality that is a bad faith wedding will cause the whole immigration thing
> > to collapse, because immigration will pick up on that...and you won't be
> > able to sponsor him at all.
> >
> >     Oh...one more thing.  These 'friends' who will be coming to the civil
> > ceremony?  I'd dump them as friends if I were in your situation, because
> > they're not serving their role as friends too well.  If they were true
> > friends, they would be telling you to give your head a shake and saying what
> > I'm saying, because you're getting yourself into a situation you will
> > statistically and legally regret later.  All because you're 'in love'.
> >
> >     I wish you good luck in your relationship, but entering what is, in your
> > own words, a bad-faith marriage after just 35 days of together time is
> > ridiculous.  If you do that, I can only pray that you get caught and the
> > immigration dept throws the book at you.
> >
> >     If you are truly in love (as opposed to infatuation or hormones), you
> > certainly should be able to wait longer and make SURE you're prepared to
> > marry.  I know I did.
> >
> >     Good luck, and may the truth be with you.
> >
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