Re: What makes a person successful?

"Mike Turco" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote in message
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> "rissa" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote
> 
> > I have never been much of a goal setter myself but it seems that
> > everyone I talk to or everything I read says setting goals is one of
> > the key ingrediants in being successful. There has to be more than
> > luck to this whole quest for success.  Right?  I know it is probably a
> > combination of things but what do you think is at the top of a list
> > that makes someone successful?
> 
> What is the difference between somebody who lives in a small house vs. a
> large house? A person who saves and invests their money vs. a person who
> spends everything? A person who starts a business vs. a person who finds a
> job?
> 
> I don't think its goal setting. I think it is how you see yourself.
> Unfortunately, that is a hard thing to control.
> 
> For example, I might have a hard day at work followed by stop-and-go traffic
> all the way home. What happens when I get home? One of two things. If I
> don't control or stop myself, I might get home and start a fight with my
> wife or something like that. But, if I make a conscious decision on the way
> home to be a person who has a happy marriage, I might stop off and buy some
> flowers for my wife and then take a brisk walk later on to blow off the
> steam.
> 
> Does that mean that a happy marriage is a goal of mine in life? You betcha!
> But it doesn't mean that I put, "Buy flowers" on my to-do list. It has more
> to do with who I am and how I see myself.
> 
> Success, perhaps, is more about how you see yourself and who your choose to
> be.
> 
> In the sake of your interest in success, take a hard look at NLP (Neuro
> Linguistic Programming). The basis of NLP is that people who succeed in
> certain areas do so because of their inherent behaviors (e.g. somebody who
> is a "naturally born" salesperson or musician). The theory is that if you
> implement these behaviors, you will experience the same level of success.
> And since NLP is so widespread, the behaviors behind quit e a few forms of
> success, or better said accomplishment, have been cataloged.
> 
> My take on NLP is that it helps to confirm my own belief that success is not
> about writing down goals and tasks. It is about who you are and how you see
> yourself.
> 
> A person who is happily married will have a difficult day but still bring
> home flowers for his wife. A person who is miserable, 24/7, will have a
> difficult day and then come home and take out his frustration on his wife.
> That has nothing to do with setting goals, or luck. It is simply who that
> person is. The important thing here is that you can choose who you want to
> be.
> 
> Mike
> 
> P.S. I can swear that I posted suggesting that you buy Success for Dummies
> by Zig Ziglar, because he did a good job of defining success, but I can't
> find my posting. Anyway, I highly recommend that audio tape. It is probably
> available on audible.com.
Thanks for responding Mike.  Although I never recieved your posting
that suggested picking up success for dummies, I already have a copy. 
I was just given a new assignment in one of my psychology classes.  I
have to write a research paper and I was thinking about doing mine on
this very topic, SUCCESS.  If I made my hypothesis:  In order to be
truly successful in life you need to...
my orginal thought was: you need to possess the right attitude, set
goals, and have the right skills in order to be successful.  Yet this
would be really hard to prove in a research paper.  I mean who is to
say what the "right attitude is" anyways.  I like the idea of my
hypothesis stating that in order to be successful in life you must be
persistant...  I feel like everything I come up with isn't black and
white enough to be able to back up with research.  Any suggestions.
Rissa