Re: What makes a person successful?

"rissa" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote

> I have never been much of a goal setter myself but it seems that
> everyone I talk to or everything I read says setting goals is one of
> the key ingrediants in being successful. There has to be more than
> luck to this whole quest for success.  Right?  I know it is probably a
> combination of things but what do you think is at the top of a list
> that makes someone successful?

What is the difference between somebody who lives in a small house vs. a
large house? A person who saves and invests their money vs. a person who
spends everything? A person who starts a business vs. a person who finds a
job?

I don't think its goal setting. I think it is how you see yourself.
Unfortunately, that is a hard thing to control.

For example, I might have a hard day at work followed by stop-and-go traffic
all the way home. What happens when I get home? One of two things. If I
don't control or stop myself, I might get home and start a fight with my
wife or something like that. But, if I make a conscious decision on the way
home to be a person who has a happy marriage, I might stop off and buy some
flowers for my wife and then take a brisk walk later on to blow off the
steam.

Does that mean that a happy marriage is a goal of mine in life? You betcha!
But it doesn't mean that I put, "Buy flowers" on my to-do list. It has more
to do with who I am and how I see myself.

Success, perhaps, is more about how you see yourself and who your choose to
be.

In the sake of your interest in success, take a hard look at NLP (Neuro
Linguistic Programming). The basis of NLP is that people who succeed in
certain areas do so because of their inherent behaviors (e.g. somebody who
is a "naturally born" salesperson or musician). The theory is that if you
implement these behaviors, you will experience the same level of success.
And since NLP is so widespread, the behaviors behind quit e a few forms of
success, or better said accomplishment, have been cataloged.

My take on NLP is that it helps to confirm my own belief that success is not
about writing down goals and tasks. It is about who you are and how you see
yourself.

A person who is happily married will have a difficult day but still bring
home flowers for his wife. A person who is miserable, 24/7, will have a
difficult day and then come home and take out his frustration on his wife.
That has nothing to do with setting goals, or luck. It is simply who that
person is. The important thing here is that you can choose who you want to
be.

Mike

P.S. I can swear that I posted suggesting that you buy Success for Dummies
by Zig Ziglar, because he did a good job of defining success, but I can't
find my posting. Anyway, I highly recommend that audio tape. It is probably
available on audible.com.